Wednesday, October 22, 2014

Be Happy You Get Attention



"You should be happy that someone takes an interest in you."

"You won't find anyone better than me that'll love you"

Hey Loves,

I'm sure we've all had this encounter with a man at some point in our lives. Interestingly enough I recently dealt with this type of situation. I was heading to an event (per usual) when a random dude thought it would make my day if he paid me a little attention. Thought I would go weak at the knees because he thought me & my outfit were cute. I guess somewhere in his wonderful little world he thought he was doing me a favor because he paid me a "compliment" #majorsideeye

If any of you know me, my reaction is nothing short of #boybye & #notimeforit. Now when I didn't succumb to his advances (no doubt used & abused toward every female he saw that day) he tried his best to save face. Stating that I should be happy that he even paid attention to me. Even mentioning that girls like me should be happy that a guy even finds them a attractive. He went on to say he could get 100 big girls like me. I do thank him though, because he gave me quite a laugh in that moment.

But this type encounter is a usual for me and I'm sure other plus size girls.Why do people assume that plus size girls should just be happy with any type of attention they receive? Even if the attention is lack luster AT BEST. I mean are we worth nothing more than random cat calls on the street? Am I suppose to smile and lay down with you because you said "I'm pretty for a big girl"? I don't subscribe to the idea that as a plus size woman I'm just suppose to accept lame attention because you assume that I don't love myself enough to demand better.

In my time as a blogger I've gotten multiple messages from young ladies asking how should they deal with their boyfriends that believes they should be happy to have a man in the 1st place. My insides churn when I get those kinds of messages. On 1 hand I understand it, when you struggle with self esteem for whatever reason, having any man in your life makes you want to do whatever  you have to in order to keep him. But on the other hand I'd be damned if my significant other disrespected me, called me names and was rude to me.

I firmly believe that if he is the man in your life and he says that he cares the last thing he would do is deliberately hurt you. You should have the comfort in knowing that you are the one he would choose you over & over. If he cares he wouldn't tell you that you need to be in the gym & that you need to eat healthy.  He would be on the treadmill next to you or walking in the park with you or spotting you on the bench press & he'd be in the kitchen cooking with you.

But loving yourself does not start & end with him. In fact, so many other women I know are quite the opposite. Ladies you should love yourself enough to wait for the guy that will love you fat & all than to settle for a knuckle head that will undoubtedly use you & mistreat you because I'm presumed to be blinded by the fact that a man could ACTUALLY love you. As a woman you should love yourself to not tolerate that type of abuse. But I also know all of this is easier said than done. 

Case & point, ladies we should not settle just for the random cat calls. We should not settle for the knuckle head that wants to knit pick our bodies & our self esteem. We shouldn't 'just be happy with what we get' Plus size body or not, we are still women & deserve to loved just as much as anyone else.

Let me know your cat calling stories if you have any!

xoxo
Shay

Monday, October 20, 2014

Lime & Vintage


Hey Loves,

I have to tell you shooting this outfit was the bane of my existence for about an hour while I shooting lol. I was using my new 50mm lense which I'm absolutely obsessed with. But as with any new lens, adjusting to it can be a bit difficult and rather annoying. But after some time I finally stared to get the shots that I wanted.

Saturday, October 18, 2014

1st Anniversary; Day Trip #2

Hey Loves,

You all know I recently celebrated 1 year with my guy. So he planned an amazing couple of day trips for our weekend together. If you checked out my last post you know we made a stop at Brotherhood Winery for wine tasting & dinner. He knew that wine tasting was something I always wanted to do. So our next trip was just as awesome.

Thursday, October 16, 2014

1st Anniversary; Day Trip #1


Hey Loves,

If you follow me on instagram you know that me & the guy celebrated our 1st year anniversary as a couple. SO because he's super awesome he planned 2 amazing local day trips for us. I know I posted pictures on my instagram but those didn't do either trip any justice. So I decided to post them on here. Let's check them out.

Tuesday, October 14, 2014

20 Plus Size Coats Under $200

Hey Loves,

As the weather gets cooler and cooler (particularly for my loves in cold states) Adding a great coat to your wardrobe is a must. I personally get a new coat every year. Not on purpose, but either way I still rock all my coats. Being from Jersey it starts to get seriously cold around this time of the year. So I know I need to be prepared. And I figured I can't be the only one out here needing a new coat. So I rounded up 20 awesome plus size coats from different brands all under $200. 


Monday, October 13, 2014

Cacique Lifestyle Store Grand Opening

Hey Loves,


If you follow me on Instagram & Facebook, you know that the other day me and my blogger boo Meaghan of Little Lime Dress hosted the grand opening of the brand new Cacique Lifestyle Store. I was thrilled when the Lane Bryant team asked if I wanted to host. But after this experience grateful would be an understatement It is located in the Newport Centre Mall in Jersey City, NJ. Honestly this store is nothing short of AMAZING. 

Tuesday, October 7, 2014

Long Tall Sally Announces Capsule Collection


Hey Loves,
This post is for my tall girls. Long Tall Sally who is the global leader in fashion for tall woman has teamed up with British clothing line Taller than you Average to create a fashion forward capsule collection for the 5'8 & up girl. This was the brain child of Irene Agbontaen; standing 5'11 she knows the struggle of not having jeans that are long enough. Or shirts with sleeves that always seem to be an inch or so too short.